Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Last Blog Post & Response to Kerry Fitzpatrick

A couple of days ago, I was kicked out of a Dead Files Discussion group.  I was surprised because I wasn't sure why.  The Admin, Kerry Fitzpatrick, of The Dead Files Discussion Group didn't respond to my message on Facebook as to why I was deleted.

I waited a couple of days and then decided I would post something publicly in hopes of finding out why.  I was shocked at what I found out.

A Facebook friend found this on the page.


Kerry never contacted me prior to deleting me nor did he keep me in the group long enough for me to see this post.  I cannot understand why he would publicly call me out.  Why didn't he just reach out to me and tell what was wrong.

I'm going to honest, that pissed me off and I wanted to set the record straight so I responded to the Facebook friend and asked if anyone who was part of the group to post it.  I sent him a PM prior to requesting it too and got no response.

My Response to Kerry

A Facebook friend posted it.  It was quickly deleted and he was banned from the group.   I wasn't surprised but was shocked that he didn't even respond to that.

I want to set the record straight once more.

1.  The blog was idea from a friend.  Since we kept getting questions wanting more of our story, he suggested we write a book or a blog.  It seemed like a great idea and something that was easy to do.

2. The purpose the blog is to share our story and give others the strength to come forward and get the help they need.

3.  We have not profited in anyway from the blog.  The advertising on the blog earns pennies.  All that money is donated to charity and it's not a big donation.

4.  We have been offered a lot of money for the rights to our story.  $500,000 as a matter of fact.  We turned it down because that's not the purpose of sharing our story.  We felt that accepting that would dilute the mission of our blog-helping and supporting others.  We have also turned down paranormal teams who wanted to pay us, as well as individual groups who wanted to have Halloween parties on our ranch.  So if we wanted to profit from our experiences we could have easily done so, the fact that we didn't makes Kerry's comments invalid.

5.  Sharing our story has helped us heal and recovery.  We still have 2 children in therapy over this and the therapist has encouraged us to openly talk about what happened.

6.  I wish Kerry would have gotten his facts straight before shooting off his mouth.  

7.  We have been very open about our experiences and have done our best to answer every single question.

8.  The blog is about the show and has always been supportive of the show.  Amy Allan has even retweeted some of the blog entries.  

A couple of other Facebook friends confronted Kerry.  Their post were deleted and they were blocked.

Post questioning Kerry.
Additional Post
After deleting them, Kerry sent the message below to Cynthia


I'm not sure how many more times I have to say this but since Kerry is unable to comprehend my messages or my post accurately, I'll say it again.  We do not profit off our blog! 

I want to respond to a few others of his comments.

1.  The other admin reached out to me directly and we discussed it.  I respected his decision and didn't post any further links.  Kerry just deleted me and then made a public post calling me out.  Kerry didn't have the decency or courage to reach out to me directly.

2.  I don't have the time to set up a fake profile account.  If I got something to say to you, I'll say to you and there is no question it's coming from me.  His claim here is nonsense and insulting.  He's basing his claim off things he cannot see and frankly he is thinking too much of himself.

3.  How dare he say what he said about my children and how dare he assumed that I'm doing that.  My response to Kerry, is screw you.

4.  Steve was skeptical but Amy confirmed everything.   E V E R Y T H I N G!  My wife had a breakdown for crying out loud.

5.  Kerry's discussion group is for like minded people only if they support his views and opinions.

6 I was active on his page, answering questions, giving my opinions, etc.  Kerry just deleted them and he's even admitted he's done that.

7. Again, why didn't Kerry just reach out to me directly?

This has worn on me and caused me to think about the blog.  I feel that Kerry's actions not only plants doubts in the mind of others, singles out my children, and questions not only my credibility but the credibility of the show.   I sent Kerry one last message with my phone number asking him to give me a call, my phone hasn't rung.  Someone as cowardly as Kerry will never have the balls to call me...never.

We had to deal with a lot of non-believers but for an admin of a Dead Files discussion group to do this is too much. It was a slap in the face and rehashed too many negative memories about how we were treated when we told others and how we tried to get help but no one helped.

Therefore I've decided this will be the last entry in our story and I have plans to delete the blog in 30 days.  We will no longer discuss our experiences publicly or answer any other questions.  We will go back into seclusion as we did when were experiencing everything.

I want to thank everyone who has supported us.  Your kind words have helped us through some difficult times.

27 comments:

  1. Oh no. Does that mean we won't get to read anything about your reveal?
    I've enjoyed your behind the scenes blog.

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    1. Hi, I'm not sure at this point. I was overwhelmed with comments and messages of support, it was wonderful. I never thought that so many people cared or cared so much.

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  2. So, some random dude from a discussion group confronts you and you fold? No way! I've followed you for months, waiting to hear about the reveal and stuff. Don't let one jerk ruin it for the rest of us. If you can deal with crazy, dead people, one loving human with attitude should be a piece of cake! Chin up!

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    1. When he brought my kids into the fight, that was a killer to me. I hated that he stooped that level. We are all still recovering from PTSD because of our experiences and he set us back. We went through so much criticism and judgement about what was happening to us before we were on the show. For him to do what he did was a slap in the face especially since he was an admin of a group about the show.

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  3. "living" human, btw. Autocorrect strikes again!

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    1. No worries, happens to me all the time. LOL

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  4. I don't get involved in much, but after reading this I hope you don't mind. If you stop the blog, delete the blog then the negative wins! Please reconsider and don't let the negative damaging energies win. It seems there are many people that are finding the help they need, courage they may need and strength from your words and experience. Stay strong and hope you reconsider. Sending prayers for you and your family.

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    1. That was the goal all along of the blog and being forthcoming about experiences. We suffered in silence for so long and we didn't want others to do the same. Not sure what I'm going to do at this point. I've gotten a lot of comments and messages of support.

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  5. This just about sets my hair on fire! I am beyond sorry this happened to you - cowardly as all get out for him to do this to you. You know how much I appreciate you taking the time to relay your experiences. You have been NOTHING but grateful and full of praise for not only Amy & Steve, but the entire production team. Your episode was far and above one of the most intriguing, so I’m glad I was able to connect with you that day and get the “whole account” (I won’t say story because I firmly believe there’s nothing fictional about it). Don’t give in! Anyone worthy of getting the benefit of your family’s experience knows this is utter bs, for lack of a more polite word. AND that blogs do not pay diddly in their fledgling stages. I know your intentions were honest. I hope you choose to continue? In the meantime I’m sending you all hope, love & continued prayer. Hang in there Lance!

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    1. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words! I've gotten so many positive comments and messages and I may reconsider but for now I'm still steaming about what happened.

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  6. I spent my day today reading your entire blog. I did so because I remember watching your episode on TV and wanted to read about your family's entire experience. In spite of Kerry Fitzpatrick's childish behavior and totally uncalled for comments, I hope you choose to leave your blog active. I truly believe it could be a source of help to many people. I would like to read your account of the reveal if for no other reason to give some closure to your experience. I pray for continued peace and happiness for you and your family. Blessed be.

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    1. I've gotten so many positive comments and messages since post this entry that it's been heartwarming to read them. I may reconsider and at least write the Reveal entry as that was next on the list and was already in the writing process. Thank you for your wonderful words of support

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  7. You can't let this cold hearted person affect your life like those evil spirits did!! Please do NOT take your story down, and I hope you finish your story with the reveal. I see a person who is very mean spirited and hateful, and he feels power over you by doing this all because he is an admin!!! You did what he asked, and you can't help it if people are more interested in you and your family than they are him!! He is straight up jealous of you because you have alot of followers that are truly interested in your story and how your family are overcoming this horrible thing your family has had to deal with!! If Amy has reposted parts of your blog, why don't you contact her and explain to her how not only did the evil spirits attack you, but now how you are having to deal with being attacked and slandered by an admin on her site??? I am sure with what Amy confirmed with her walk that she will not put up with some asshole admin (excuse my French) attacking you when she KNOWS and CONFIRMED what you have been saying!! You and your family did not ask for this terrible time in your life, and it REALLY pissed me off that this person is attacking your children and wife!!! PLEASE....if you stop the blogs and remove everything, this ass wins.....DONT LET HIM WIN!!!

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    1. Thank you for your amazing words of support. I have actually heard from Amy regarding this issue so we'll see what comes of this. Him dragging my kids into this was uncalled for and pissed me off. He made so many assumptions and failed to get facts and then when I reached out to him. He ignored me completely. Not sure what I'm going to do at this point but the comments and messages of support has been very humbling.

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  8. Kerry is a typical bully. It's incredibly brave to put your family's story out in public. You're always going to have negative people spreading their negative opinions. It's easy to get angry at them and that's exactly what they want. To stir up more negativity. I know it's easy to say, but ignore them. The readers of your blog fully support you. You all are amazing. You have been through so much worse than some scathing words from an immature bully. He pales in comparison. I hope you keep your blog going strong, the world needs more people like you sharing your experiences. We are lucky to be living in this lifetime where our experiences are becoming more accepted . My daughter is a sensitive, she's 6 and the past two years she's began to show her gifts. I'm amazed how more accepting family and friends are about her experiences. Even 10 years ago would have been very different. Please keep up your wonderful story.

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    1. Thank you Elizabeth! The comments and messages supporting our efforts in sharing our story and continuing to do so, has been amazing & humbling. It's hard to believe that someone who is admin for a discussion group about the show felt it necessary to bring my children in the fight. Especially given the fact that Steve is very adamant that he prefers cases that helps children. thank you again!

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    2. I agree, it's pretty sad. From what I've read on Amy's twitter she fully supports your family. Best wishes for you and yours:)

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  9. I hope you do stop the blogs for one Jerk! I really enjoy reading them.

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    1. You'll be happy to hear that after some encouraging words from Amy Allan, we've decided to continue with the blog!

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  10. I totally understand your anger & reservations. Bringing the girls into it was horrible. I can’t imagine anyone who has listened to your account not being empathetic, but there are sadly just “those people” in our world. I can feel how terrifying this was for you, so I can only imagine what your kids were going through. The way you’ve helped them cope is wonderful, and I’ve most definitely learned from you and will carry that over into my communication with my own kiddos. I’ll keep checking back from time to time with fingers crossed. I don’t have your bravery to public share my battle with the dark stuff that invades our space, much because of people like him. I have no issue with skepticism - being curious yet careful is how we educate ourselves wisely. But for someone who leads a para discussion group to do this really gets my hackles up!

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    1. After some kind words and encouragement from Amy Allan, we've decided to continue the blog. So stay tuned as we'll post another entry in our story soon!

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  11. This is amazing; don't let one a-hole make you stop. I absolutely need to hear what happens next. I just spent a couple hours reading it.

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    1. You'll be happy to know that after some words of encouragement from Amy Allan, we've decided to continue the blog and sharing our story. So stay tuned as another entry will be posted soon!

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  12. I am so very glad to hear this! I hope that Amy also handled things with Kerry and deleted him from his admin duties! Then, he can make a fake profile and try to admin again!

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    1. It would be awesome if that happened! She did mention that she was going to make a public statement about the group & the admin, so we'll see what happens. I mentioned in a FB post that I think Kerry should publicly apologize given that he publicly criticized us. I think that's only fair, however, I'm not holding my breathe that he'll do that.

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  13. I hope she tells him she doesn't want him to be a part of her page since he doesn't know how to react to criticism. The thing that really angers me about this whole thing is that if you have a problem with someone, you do your best to resolve the issue...but what you DON'T DO is bring the children into the conversation!!!! He is not a nice person, and shouldn't be an admin if he doesn't know his role as one!! My Daddy always td me that you treat people the way you want to be treated, and it is obvious to me and I'm sure everyone that he was not taught this growing up!!

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